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Feb 14

Mindfulness

January 2014 log on the Sea Change Program

I’ve been meditating regularly for over a year now, and have drawn real value and insight from the practice. As part of the Sea Change Program, I allowed myself to rewind the habit, going back to square one and taking a fresh look at not just meditation, but at the concept of mindfulness and how I try to integrate that more holistically into my life. Not just the 2, or 15, or 30 minutes that I sit, but in all the things I do.

The first experiment was to swap my timer for a stopwatch (I use the standard clock app on my phone). Previously, I would set a timer for 15 minutes, or however long I thought I wanted to meditate, start the timer and sit until it went off. When I took a step back I realized that I have issues with that timer: Continue reading →


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Jan 14

Sea Change

man sunrise meditatiionI’m not much of a joiner, and being on the far side of introverted, I’m not naturally big on networking, but I just joined the Sea Change program over on Zen Habits and wanted to post a quick note here. This will serve as my accountability notice – I’m doing this.

The program uses a monthly rotation of topics, around which people may want to create and/or reinforce habits like exercising, being mindful, letting go, and un-procrastinating. You’re free to work on anything at any time, but specific support is available for the monthly topic. There is also a large community of other people in the program available to support your efforts, and provide advice, feedback and encouragement.

January is “A Month of Mindfulness” and I began with 3 minutes mindful meditation this morning. Continue reading →


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Jun 13

Father’s Day 2013

Fathers Day 2013-web

I’m a Dad, and that’s about the best thing that has ever happened in my life. I have two incredibly wonderful and loving children, and they have truly changed my life.

I remember feeling anxious when we were trying to conceive, and then a panicky fear as I watched my son’s head crown during his birth. And since then I’ve felt a lot of fear and anxiety, along with inexpressible joy and wonder. I’ve felt so tired that I couldn’t speak, and I’ve laughed uncontrollably at being drenched in vomit. I’ve felt anger and hurt. I’ve felt absurdly, stupidly in love. I’ve felt sick with worry, and sobbed happy tears.

I’ve felt … and that has made all the difference. Continue reading →


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Sep 12

Know your Customer

Our family vacation this year was spent in New York, visiting family, and in Florida for sun and fun. In Florida, my wife and I agreed on a collection of activities, trips, shows, etc. Some Disney stuff made the list as well as the Kennedy Space Center and a number of good restaurants. List in hand we went forth and vacationed.

After a few activity days, I noticed the kids getting grumpy and tired, although they were sleeping a lot and quite heavily. I asked but they said everything was OK. But of course, it wasn’t … we had overloaded the schedule.

The adults were naturally working hard to enjoy things to keep everyone engaged and entertained, and because the adults seemed to be enjoying things so much, the kids didn’t want to complain. Continue reading →


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Jul 12

The Joy of Fear

Fear is a funny thing, but if we pre-judge things that scare us as bad, then we can be missing a large part of an important picture. Fear isn’t good or bad, it just is.

Fear stops us and serves us in equal measure. It can constrain us when choose not do something because it scares us (roller coasters, scuba diving, public speaking), but it can also keep us safe (run from danger, don’t walk down dark alleys). Fear is a normal, human reaction to something unknown or new. It originates in the brain’s limbic system and is part of our most primitive response mechanism: Fight or flight.

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